The Japan Family Planning Association interviewed 3,000 subjects about their sex lives (both men and women).
The study revealed that nearly 50 per cent of those quizzed didn’t have sex in the month previous to the interview.
As I told her last night, I am reaching a breaking point.
Ninety-nine percent of our relationship is perfect, and I feel like I have the greatest wife on the planet, except for this.
As Koch says, "a man may see his wife mainly as mother, rather than as sex partner" after the birth of their first child.
By the same token Japanese sociologists have found that a very high percentage of these "sexless spouses say they do not mind this situation, as they get along perfectly well with their partner otherwise".
Wearing a tie and bringing home the dollar is simply seen as being more sexed than staying at home and banging out the high scores on Street Fighter in sweatpants and a hoodie.
According to Angelika Koch, Researcher in Japanese Studies at Cambridge University and author of Manga Girl Seeks Herbivore Boy, the number of these carnivorous men has decreased since the economic downturn that hit Japan in the early 1990s.
When we discuss it, I am calm, rational, and choose my words carefully, always reassuring her that I am fully committed and not looking to go outside our relationship, unless of course that is something she is interested in.For instance, two years ago economic analyst Morinaga Takuro suggested a tax on the handsome, with the premise of opening up the playing field for otaku men (a Japanese term meaning geek) who, Takuro said, find it easier to ‘fall in love with the 2D female characters from anime and manga’ instead of ‘human women’.Takuro's idea was clearly an administrative nightmare - but it also missed the point.She is kind, caring, funny, and we cook, take care of our pets, and keep our home as equal partners.
love with me anymore, at least not the way I am with her. We aren’t even that physically affectionate anymore, and it’s not for a lack of trying on my part.
Dr Mark Pendleton, Lecturer in Japanese Studies at The University of Sheffield, argues this issue further, telling me that ‘panics’ about sexuality and gender are ‘not new’.